KEEP IT SIMPLE: THE TOP 10 REASONS WE MAKE THINGS MORE COMPLICATED THAN THEY NEED TO BE
By Christine Blosdale

Good God we humans are complicated.

Whether it be in business or personal relationships, humans tend to muck things up by over thinking and over analyzing every last detail over and over again until all of the joy is sucked right out of whatever it was that at one time, was a wonderful thing.

Simply put, most of us have lost the child-like ability to just be “present” and play with life. As our egos develop over time, the art of allowing whatever good stuff to come naturally through our passions and communication has been lost in the name of getting more money, more followers, more fans, more lovers, more attention…you name it…just more, more more.

So what are we doing wrong?

Here are my Top 10 Reasons We Make Things More Complicated Than They Need to Be

#1. Our Ego Has To Control Everything
Okay so this little bastard basically feels the need to take the steering wheel of your life in order to feel like it’s in charge. And yes, can be a real dick about it. But I’ll let you in on a little secret. As convincing and semi charming as he can be at times, your Ego is NOT your amigo. This entity will feed on you like some 50 foot tapeworm unless you can manage to control your thoughts - or at the very least bring them back to some form of reality. Meditation, utilizing programs that deal with the Unconscious Mind, regular physical exercise and the simple act of covering your big mouth BEFORE you blurt out some Ego induced rant or rave will get you far in life and it can keep that twatwaffle Ego in check!

#2 We Are Gluttons For Punishment
I blame religion and dogma on this one. It’s the whole “you were born in sin” bullcrap that sticks to our ribs lifetime after lifetime and it harkens back to being thrown out of the Garden cuz an “uppity” woman ate an apple. Get over it. You are a glorious and divine aspect of God/The Universe expressing yourself in a flesh suit with blood in your veins and bones to hold you up. You came into this world perfect. You don’t need to be punished or put through hell for anything.

#3. We Don’t Believe in Ourselves or Our Destiny
This has flavors of #2 in it as it can also be driven by childhood programming from religion, our parents, or cultural beliefs that we are not good enough nor do we deserve to thrive. Trust me, if you could see just how magnificient you truly are and what it took for you to be right where you are right now you’d fall to your knees and kiss your own damn feet.

#4 Comparison is a Biatch!
With the advent of Facebook and Instagram and tens of thousands of chiselled abs and size 2 twenty somethings popping up on your phone, laptop, tablet or TV we tend to feel less than because we constantly compare ourselves to unrealistic creatures from the Perfect Lagoon. Just stop that right now because it is a game you will never win. And besides, those “perfect” people you compare yourself to have their own caca to deal with - (yes I said caca) and some have it way worse than you. They just don’t advertise it on social media. So please stop comparing yourself to anyone right now. There. You already feel better now don’t you? Knew it.

#5 The Shortest Distance Is…The Bloody Shortest Distance!
Why oh why do we insist on running a marathon when we could just take a quick drive around the block? There is a mis-perception that we have to work really hard and put in really long hours and grind our life away in order to be successful. That my over-worked and under-paid friend is simply NOT true. I know many successful people who have a gorgeous work-to-home-life-ratio and they manage to get everything done because they have learned to master the art of working smarter, not harder. It’s doable. And if you need help getting there, contact me @ OutofTheBoxWithChristine@gmail.com and we will as they say, chat about it.

#6 We LOVE Drama and Conflict.
This one is a no brainer. Just look at how much money we pay to go to the movies and sporting events. Rome had the Gladiators. We have the Academy Awards and the NFL. Or as my Aussie friends say, “Footie.” Bah! That sounds like something my Grama knitted for me as a child when I had a cold! Just know that we are ALL Drama Queens.

#7 We Don’t Listen to Hear. We Listen to Respond.
If we could simply hear what someone is saying and not be preparing some thesis or 50 page rebuttal we would be much further along as a species. Maybe this has a bit of that bastard Ego scent on it, but I really think that we are just not taught to listen as children. We are taught to cry to get what we want. And when we scream we get it even faster. But it’s just to shut us up. And we are never told that listening is just as important as demanding. But get this…when you truly listen you will hear what is needed and required and it will save you time, energy, money, frustration and the loss of friends and family members. Not a bad deal heh?

#8 It’s in Our DNA Darling
Okay this will be short and sweet and saucy AF. We not only carry our own wounds and traumas from this life, but get this, we also carry all the icky gooey gross crap from our parents, and their parents and their parents and… well you get the picture. It’s a crowded circus tent people! Then there’s all of our own personal past lives and the trials and tribulations we had back in the 1400s when scurvy and malleria were as common as a Starbucks on every corner is today. My advice to you is that you better start clearing that stuff up ASAP in order to move forward in this life. Hint: Meditate, Ask for Clearing and again, work on those unconscious beliefs you didn’t know you had.

#9 We Worry What Other People Think About Us
Bahahaha! Knock that shit off right now. Nuff said.

#10 We Seldom Ask For Help
Hey I get it. If you’re reading this you most certainly have that Entrepreneurial Spirit. That “I Can Do It Myself” attitude. The “Pull Yourself Up By Your Own Bootstraps” F’d up mentality that leaves so many people bitter and resentful on the side of the road of life because they simply fail at whatever venture they embark upon. Be it in business or relationships, we tend to isolate ourselves and suffer in miserable silence. That is plain stupid. Ask for help from those willing to give it to you and seek out those who are successful in whatever field you wish to excel at. And remember, they aren’t gonna find you hiding behind your cellphone darling, so reach out and get some guidance.

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Christine Blosdale is a Transformational Speaker, Coach and Consultant Specializing in Wellness, Business, Product Development and the Service Industries. She’s also a multi million dollar fundraiser who prefers to use her time making the world a better place.

THE ART OF THE INTERVIEW
by Christine Blosdale

Your audience can smell an ego a mile away. And one sure fire way to drive listeners away is to have a big fat one that sucks up the air time.

Letting your guests speak while guiding them to where you want them to go is one way to both entertain and enlighten your audience, so don’t blow it by having to be heard.

The Art of the Interview is an audio ballet of sorts involving balanced conversation and profound moments. Sometimes that dramatic pause (AKA “dead air”) can be so powerful it can transform both your guest and your audience. So don’t be afraid of that silence.

Far too often people feel the need to fill it - to keep talking. Please DON’T. Like I said, it’s a dance. A beautiful, emotion filled dance. And when the dance is done with respect for both the guest and the listener (and the ego takes a hike) it’s pure magic.

One of the best ways to engage your audience and have them in return invest themselves in your show is to know way ahead of time exactly what “story” you want to focus in on and express on air. If your guest has overcome some major obstacles in life or survived against all odds, this story can be what not only draws you in, but your audience as well.

Let’s face it. All of the great films and books have been based on great stories. Anyone heard of “Star Wars?” Exactly. Stories of overcoming adversity or experiencing a miraculous turn of events is what we call a real “page turner.”

Well your podcast or radio show is no different. People connect through stories and they will stick with you until they find out what the hell happened.

Did you leave the movie theater when Darth said to Luke, “I am your father?!!” Ummm NO. You were glued to your seat and you were not leaving that dark place with sticky Coca Cola residue on the floor until you heard the whole damn saga.

“The more personal your story is, the more Universal and connected you are to others.”
- Bo Eason

Another big boo boo I hear hosts make is when they try to be perfect.

Listen, we all stumble sometimes and we all have our “brain fart” moments. In my many years of experience I can tell you that when you are real and honest (and yes, even raw) the audience actually digs you even more! They don’t want perfect. They want real. And they want to know that you are not some robot, but a feeling imperfectly perfect human being.

Now some of you may be saying, “But what about those people on TV? They have to be perfect.” Listen. They are so disconnected from their audience and they have advertising sales managers breathing down their necks. You don’t.

Besides, just because everyone else is doing it doesn’t mean you need to too. The key to succeeding in broadcast journalism is to realize that you are truly unique and with that you possess skills and talents that are your trademark. And one of them is the ability to F- up and laugh about it or connect with people through that very real human quality. Own that. Be real baby, be real!

And don’t be afraid to color outside the lines. Your occasional flubs or “mess-ups” could be the very thing that endears you to people and makes them like you even more - especially when compared to other so-called “professionals!”

You are YOU. And you are F-in YOUnique! Now go speak to your tribe and bring them guests that can offer them a story they will never forget.

Christine Blosdale
Coach and Consultant with Out of the Box Strategies for Out of This World Results